Dating

Consider this page to be perpetually incomplete. Perhaps there is just an outline here waiting to be fleshed out. There’s always more to add, but it was lasted updated on: [3/15/2021]

I’m a man who dates men.

I date with the intention of entering into a long-term relationship, marriage, and family.

I’m monogamous and don’t see that changing any time soon (I can barely find one man to date at a time, and prefer my own company to that of someone I don’t fully enjoy). Life is long and interesting, and I’d like to date a man I can grow and change with. Plus we could both save ourselves a lot of time and psychic energy by not needing to date! Imagine all the compounding benefits that come with having a life partner.

I have a preference to meet someone in NYC, where I am. But I enjoy getting to know great people at a distance too (although the getting-to-know-each-other tempo would be slower). Life is long, and people are mobile. Best to get to know good people all over–we don’t know where we’ll end up or who we’ll be near.

I want children in the future, but that’s definitely years away. My preferences here are in flux, but the most specific way of articulating them is: if I am still single in the later part of my thirties, I will proceed with being a single father to at least one child. If I have a husband to raise a family, I want at least two children.

If you want to know about how I operate (in mind, in body, in the world, see the about page and the thoughts page). We don’t have to be the same, and I don’t even think that’s possible, but an active body and mind would match well with me.

Regarding physical chemistry and sex: I’ll try anything four times, but this is still a domain I need to fully figure out. As with the pursuit of great literature or giving yourself a haircut, senses of adventure, curiosity, and humor are in order here.

Dating is chill–if we’re not a match, that’s OK. If we have good shared interests then I don’t think it would be strange to follow each other on social media, but I wouldn’t want actual dating/flirting to happen on a public thread. That’s what DM sliding is for.

I’m 29 years old, 6′ tall, 170 pounds, toned musculature, and know that my most attractive years are ahead of me. Since I’m a man, I could also provide another set of measurements, but where’s the mystery in that? And who doesn’t love a big mystery.

Go to my Instagram for more pictures, but this is what I look like when I’m still working at my desk at 3am.